What do you say to yourself on a daily basis? We all do it. While looking in the mirror, while working out, when we're driving in our car, throughout the day we are always talking to ourselves. Now I am willing to bet a majority of that self talk is not always positive. It seems awkward, weird even uncomfortable to speak nice to ourselves, but why is that? Why is it easier to point out our flaws and weaknesses than it is to point out how hard we are working. Why is it so damned hard for us to say things like "I like the way I look" "I like my stomach" "I'm pretty" "I'm working really hard and i'm proud of myself"? We may think it's being conceited, we may think it's not polite, but when has it ever been polite to call someone fat. When has it ever been polite to tell someone their butt is too big or their chest is too flat. When has it ever been okay to call someone lazy, not good enough or even a failure. NEVER. So why do we think it's okay to say those things to ourselves? It is a hard habit to break! It will feel uncomfortable at first, but hey, that means your growing. So, here are a few things I encourage you to try, and if it feels weird, good job you're doing it right!
1. Positive affirmations.
Every. single. day. Wake up, find something you like about yourself. It could be the way you treat others, your new hair do, how hard working your are, the way you treat your relationships, it could be anything positive about YOU! If you think that's too tough, think again because i'm sure there are a lot of great things about yourself!
2. Do something that makes you feel good.
We go to work, we clean the house, run errands, do things for other people, etc... When was the last time you did something you really, truly were passionate about....and didn't feel guilty. Paint, sing, dance, run, journal, relax...take some time out of your week and do something for YOU, and don't feel one ounce of guilt about it...your working on your self confidence dammit!
3. Be assertive.
Become okay with voicing your opinion. Tell people what you want, what you don't want, when your upset, when your happy, use your voice. Be polite, but know that your opinion is worth something.
4. Make your list.
Take some time alone, grab some coffee...or wine (whichever you prefer) and make a list. Use this list to write down all the truly awesome things about yourself. Really think about what you want out of this life. Think about what legacy you want to leave behind, and write. What lifestyle changes will help you achieve this legacy? What can you do to create this life that you really want?
5. Fake it 'till you make it
If this is hard, good. Compliment yourself even if you don't truly believe it yet, because one day you will. Even when you want to be negative, fire back with a positive. The more times you say it, the more you will believe it. When you start loving yourself that is when you will see the real change. Lifestyle makeover's start from the inside out.
If you ever need help, I am always here.
My name is Hanna Kuyper and my mission for iamwell comes directly from my past experiences. Read more