I have been in the business of health and fitness for almost 8 years. In the beginning it was because I wanted to look a certain way. Now, its because I want to teach women they don’t have to look a certain way. Recovering from my eating disorder, I came to a point where I was sitting in my therapist’s office saying, "I’m not going to be a part of fitness anymore. I’m not going to train people, I’m not going to work in a gym, I’m not going to teach classes, I’m just not going to". When she asked why my response was, "well, if I’m a trainer I should be lean. I should have flat abs, I should have defined muscles, I should eat healthy all of the time, I should always want to work out. And the truth is, I don’t have a 6 pack like most trainers I see, I don’t drink green smoothies every day and eat salads for lunch. I don’t always feel like being in a gym. I’m not a normal ‘fitness junkie’ therefore I’m not good enough".
Luckily enough she worked her magical powers and got me over my pity party and helped me see a bigger picture. She helped me see why this industry I was in didn’t have to be about weight loss, working out until you die and all the negative notions I labeled it with. She gave me some important things to think about and shortly after I launched the beginning of iamwell. If I had believed all those "shoulds" I had in my head, the studio wouldn’t be here, I would not be at the place I am now, and I would most likely be working some 9-5 job I hated.
There are still days where I find myself comparing and find myself thinking of all these things I "should" be if I own a studio. If I let those things hang around in my head I would never go anywhere. According to my sometimes shitty thoughts that pop up in my head, I should be perfect. I should meditate every morning, I should drink green smoothies daily, I should have a flat stomach, I should know everything, be the best boss ever, while balancing my marriage and social life.
My question is, are there really any human beings out there that lineup with the idea of all these "shoulds" that we have in our minds? Is there some super human out there that can do all of these things perfectly all the time? If there is, I would love to meet her. But until then, realize all of your "shoulds" in life, are a load of crap.
There’s some days I don't drink enough water, some days all I crave are carbs, I go through spans where I work too much and forget to focus on my husband, there’s times where I’m exhausted from work and think what did I get myself into? If you start chasing those ‘shoulds’ or hold back because you think you should be something you’re not….you’re going to miss out on a whole lot. This past year has been the most amazing year of my life. I never in a million years imagined I would run a business let alone one like this one. If I would have listened to all of those stupid thoughts and doubts I had in my head and not took some friendly advice from my therapist, my studio wouldn’t be here, I wouldn’t have met these amazing women who have changed my life and I would probably still be trying to figure out what to do with my life.
So whatever it is in your life that you tell yourself you should be. Stop.
You don’t need to be in perfect shape to start coming to the studio. You don’t need to be flexible to try yoga. You don’t need to feel like working out and eating healthy all of the time.
It’s okay to lose sight of priorities every now and then. It’s okay to need a break from the hustle of your day to day life. There is not one person out that is succeeding at all of those "shoulds":
Stop chasing perfection and start embracing real. Love yourself, accept yourself and know that we’re all in this together.
See you in the studio,
My name is Hanna Kuyper and my mission for iamwell comes directly from my past experiences. Read more