Hey There Friend,
When was the last time you felt really good? You know, one of those moments where the universe just seemed to line up + things just felt, right? Maybe it was during some quality time with a friend, maybe it was when you were walking out of your workout class like a superstar or maybe it was in your leggings + messy bun dancing in the kitchen with your little one. Whenever it was, I want you to fall into that moment for just a second. What was different? Why was this moment so wonderful?
As humans, we typically crave change. We set goals, we have dreams, we crave something new. It's all great and wonderful and i'm willing to bet it feels amazing when we reach our goals. What if we went about goal setting in a new way. Instead of setting goal _______ and hoping it made us feel________ what if we flipped it? Hang with me.
What usually happens when we go to set new goals? We tell ourselves things like, I want to start meditating every morning, I want to go to the gym 5 days a week and I want to apply for that new job I saw last week. We want all of these things because overall, we think they're going to make us feel a certain way right? Well, what if going to the gym 5 days a week caused us to feel anxious instead of happy and getting that new job made us burnt out instead of content?
We set goals because we want to feel a certain way, but 99% of the time we never acknowledge those actual feelings when setting our goals.It's kind of like taking a shot in the dark and just hoping that our goal has some power to change our life. So here's the point where you're thinking, "That's great Hanna, but WHAT do I do about it?" Well you're in luck because I know a simple way to get started.
1. Forget about all your goals you have for yourself. I know. Sounds counterproductive, but trust me. Whether your goals are to lose weight, get more active, find a new job or anything else, put them on pause. Grab a piece of paper + pen, get nice and cozy. Now, create a list of how you want your life to feel like. What came up? For me, I discovered I want more peace, simplicity, fulfillment, love and connection.
2. Once you have those feelings written down, start jotting down what things make you feel that way. For example, being outdoors makes me feel peace and scheduling in quiet time with my family helps me feel connection.
3. Next is the fun part, grab your calendar and plug some of those activities in throughout your week. By putting them into your weekly calendar you will start experiencing those feelings you're searching for. And the best thing is you're filling your days with things you enjoy, not things you feel like you have to do.
So, let me know, what were some of the feelings you want to experience in your life on the regular and what activities are going to help get you there?
Hey there ladies,
Today I wanted to chat about something that is such a common struggle for people, but especially women, negative self-talk. These negative thoughts that seem to continuously pop up into our head become such a normal occurrence that most of the time we don’t realize its happening. Whether it’s thoughts like I’m not good enough, I don’t deserve that or anything else along those lines, hang tight, I’m going to give you some pointers to overcome them.
1.Check your facts.
Most of the time these crummy thoughts that happen between our ears have been developed over the course of our life. Maybe you slipped up during a speech at school and now you label yourself as a terrible public speaker. Maybe you were always told you were shy and now you tell yourself you stink in social situations. Whatever the ‘talk’ is let’s check the facts.
First you want to check for evidence. Are these thoughts I’m telling myself really true. What backs it up? Is there actual facts or is it just how I perceive the situation?
2.Put yourself in new shoes
If this were a friend you were talking to would these same thoughts still be coming up or would you have some more grace with them? An important question to explore if this is the case is why don’t you deserve the same grace you give to others?
3. Notice your thoughts
These thoughts have become so normal for us, most of the time we simply don't even realize we are thinking them. Take some time to pay attention to these thoughts. When do they come up? What are they typically about?
4. Change them up
This is when we really focus on changing what we are saying. It can be SUCH a challenge at first but so important. It might be one of those times we just need to fake it until we make it, or in this case fake it until we rewire our brain!
An example of this could be "you've tried this a million times, it wont ever work!"
My goal would be to change that with "I am SO proud of myself for making ME a priority. I may not be perfect but I never give up!"
Give yourself some grace and all the love you can.