Most women have a hard time loving themselves. It's the sad truth and the sad reality of life. Even as a studio owner, health coach and self love advocate, I catch myself looking in the mirror from time to time and thinking negative thoughts and forcing myself to get them out of my head. Flash back to 4 years ago and I hated everything about my body. I was always trying to change it, put it through a diet, curse it for things I could not control and was constantly working against it. It took a lot of hard work to change my mindset and to truly love who I am, flaws and all. I now love who I am and not because of the way I look or the size of my clothes, but because I realize all the amazing things my body does for me. My hope in this post is to open your eyes to a new way of viewing your body. My goal is to get you working with it instead of against it.
Stop thinking life will get better if you lose 'just 10 more lbs'
It's a common mindset to think that if you just had a thinner body, made it to all your workout classes, ate perfectly and fit into smaller clothes that life would be great. You can lose all the weight in the world but if you don't love who you are (no matter what your size) you are always going to be striving for '10 more lbs'. Instead of waiting to love your body when it reaches that perfect size, start loving your body now...exactly where it's at.
Activity: Look in the mirror and think of 3 things you love about your body. Is it your strong legs? Your feet that allow you to walk?
Kick self doubt to the curb
Are you scared to go to a class at the studio? Are you scared about wearing a tank top in public because of your arms? Does the thought of being in a big crowd scare you? This one is easier said than done...but kick that self doubt to the curb. You CAN do that fitness class that you're scared of. You CAN do all those things that scare you. Don't sell yourself short.
Activity: Do something out of your comfort zone. Drop into a new class. Go paddle boarding. Rock that cute dress you've been scared to wear and be PROUD of your awesome body.
You scroll through social media and see women with 'perfect' bodies. You turn on the t.v and see women with flat abs and toned arms. YOU ARE ENOUGH JUST THE WAY YOU ARE. Each person is unique and beautiful in their own way. Embrace what you have instead of wishing for something that someone else has.
Activity: Take yourself out on a date! Yes it sounds funny, but take yourself out and get your nails done, watch a movie, take a walk....anything that makes you feel good!
Throw your scale in the trash
If the number on the scale dictates your day and how you feel about yourself it's time to kick it to the curb...literally. The number on the scale does NOT prove anything about your self worth, the health of your body or how your day should go. Eat healthy foods, move regularly and trust the body to take care of itself....
Activity: This one is quick and simple. Throw your scale away. Break it, kick it, sell it, donate it, toss it, whatever you need to do get it out of your house!
Don't dwell on what you can't do yet.
If you cant complete a full push up yet, have trouble preparing healthy meals every night or anything else that isn't 'perfect', embrace it. Don't beat yourself up for what you can't do yet but celebrate what you CAN do! Be happy that you're working towards that push up, be proud that you made some healthy meals this week. Enjoy this journey and be proud of what you are doing.
Activity: Make a list of all the great changes you have been making (big or small).
I hope you try one or all of these tips. Let me know how they go. Remember to love your body and treat it right!
My name is Hanna Kuyper and my mission for iamwell comes directly from my past experiences. Read more