In honor of World Mental Health Day on October 10th I wanted to share some ways we can care for our mental health. Today I challenge you to experiment with these practices that can support your mental health and well-being. See which one helps you the most and as always, I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. What do you do to support your mental health?
Today I want to chat self care. We KNOW how it important it is, we are constantly told we should be doing it but let's be real, sometimes it's tough to make happen. Days don't go as planned, we have a family to take care of, we are exhausted... It's easy to let our own well-being fall to the end of the list. But here's the thing, when we make our self care a priority, it allows us to be a better wife, mom and friend. It makes our patience a last a little bit longer. It makes us kinder to ourselves. It allows us to feel better. It's time we say enough is enough and make self care a regular part of our schedules. It's time we stop making "busy" sound so glamorous.
So what usually goes wrong?
If you've been trying to add in self care but it just isn't working check in with these things.
I hope some of these tips help!
How are mornings in your home? Are they calm, peaceful + relaxing? Or rushed, crazy + overwhelming? I know i'm accurate when I say there's two types of people in this world, morning lovers + night owls. Although I've always been one to love the calmness + quiet of an early morning, I also know so many humans (my husband included) that love to stay up late at night. Also, now that I have an 8 month old that loves to 'hangout' during the night and keep mommy awake, early mornings have been somewhat of an adjustment. With all that being said,
I think that in order to create a shift and to begin the process of transformation, waking up earlier is the place to start. Now, don't get me wrong, there are seasons in life when early morning wake ups aren't possible. Take me for example, when we first had our son, I had to get sleep whenever I could, I was on survival mode, but for most people, I suggest to give these early mornings a shot.
So why mornings you ask? When we can start our day out productively, it effects all areas of our life. When we put our self care, quiet time or productivity time off, there's just too many chances for it to get forgotten or put aside throughout our day. If you're looking for a great book that goes into depth about this and also chats about how to wake up earlier you can snag The Miracle Morning .
In this post we're going to jam on what to do when you're up + how to create an atmosphere that makes for a productive day.
1. Create the Vibe
The environment you start your day in is SO important. The first hour totally sets the pace for your day. Leave your phone on airplane mode, keep the news off and focus on creating an environment that brings you comfort. Make a point to get up before the family and create this sacred space for you. For me, I like to get my diffuser going with whatever essential oils i'm feeling that day, turn on Jack Johnson radio and start my coffee. While I do this I write out my gratitudes + permissions ( I shared about this in our private wellness community, you can join that here ) . This creates the type of vibe I want to experience throughout my day.
Connect, get grounded, become centered, whatever you want to call it, now is the time to do it. Take some time to do a self inventory. Sit in meditation, do some deep breathing, take a moment to listen to your body. What does it need? This is usually when I decide what my body needs physically throughout the day. Is it craving yoga? Does it need a long run? Does is need to rest and regroup? Taking this time (even if it's only for a few minutes) to take a judgment free, honest inventory of your self can help you set your day up in a way that works for you.
3. Top 3 priorities
So to be fair, this part can be done the night before or in the morning but what I like to do is brain dump on a piece of paper and get everything on my to do list out of my head. It's nice to do this the night before because it clears your head so you can relax a bit more easily but doing it in the morning is just as beneficial. After the brain dump, take your top three things that need to be accomplished that day. Only three! If you do more than that it's just icing on the cake. After you write out your priorities list for your day, do the toughest one first. You know, the one you've been putting off for months + keep saying you'll do it later? Yeah, that one. It's called eating the frog. Get that one out of the way + than tackle the others. This leads to feeling productive opposed to just staring at a long to do list that never gets done.
I encourage you to try this for a week. See how your days change. I'd love to hear your thoughts on early morning wake ups. What does your routine look like?
I'm always rooting for you,
Hanna Kuyper is a wife, a mom and a lover of all things outdoors. She has owned a women only wellness studio, sat on the board of a non profit dedicated to eating disorder and body image awareness and has volunteered as a mentor for girls in school. Hanna has a Masters Degree in Counseling Psychology with an emphasis in eating disorders and body image. She is a currently a virtual body image and recovery coach at The Eating Disorder Center.